http://izzyrodriguez.com/2009/03/04/losing-the-taste/ iZZy Rodriguez Sat, 30 Apr 2011 12:01:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://izzyrodriguez.com/2009/03/04/losing-the-taste/#comment-25 Kristin Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:11:49 +0000 http://izzyrodriguez.com/?p=223#comment-25 Judging is a very interesting topic. I agree that the ugly side of judging is not clarity and can be catty and harsh and bring out our ugliest selves. However, I do wonder if we should have another word for what is sometimes called 'judging'. For instance, if I see a couple relating in a way that I find distasteful, I will go over in my mind or with my friends how I think that couple (as an example) might relate in a more mature manner. What I'm ultimately doing is reflecting myself in what i see and trying to help define me by stating what I would do differently. Our society says that in so doing we should put that couple down - the 'judging' part. What we can realize is that it's ok to decide how we think we might handle their situation differently and we can also leave space for those people to be where they are. Does that make sense? Judging is a very interesting topic. I agree that the ugly side of judging is not clarity and can be catty and harsh and bring out our ugliest selves. However, I do wonder if we should have another word for what is sometimes called ‘judging’. For instance, if I see a couple relating in a way that I find distasteful, I will go over in my mind or with my friends how I think that couple (as an example) might relate in a more mature manner. What I’m ultimately doing is reflecting myself in what i see and trying to help define me by stating what I would do differently. Our society says that in so doing we should put that couple down – the ‘judging’ part. What we can realize is that it’s ok to decide how we think we might handle their situation differently and we can also leave space for those people to be where they are. Does that make sense?

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